Does God Answer Our Prayers?
Have you ever known someone who really trusts God? When I was an
atheist, I had a good friend who prayed often. She would tell me every
week about something she was trusting God to take care of. And every
week I would see God do something unusual to answer her prayer. Do you
know how difficult it is for an atheist to observe this week after week?
After a while, "coincidence" begins to sound like a very weak argument.
So why would God answer my friend's prayers? The biggest reason is
that she had a relationship with God. She wanted to follow God. And she
actually listened to what he said. In her mind, God had the right to
direct her in life, and she welcomed him doing just that! When she
prayed for things, it was a natural part of her relationship with God.
She felt very comfortable coming to God with her needs, her concerns,
and whatever issues were current in her life. Furthermore, she was
convinced, from what she read in the Bible, that God wanted her to rely
on him like that.
She pretty much exhibited what this statement from the Bible says,
"This is the confidence we have in approaching God: that if we ask
anything according to his will, he hears us."
1 "For the eyes of the Lord are on the righteous and his ears are attentive to their prayer..."
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So, Why Doesn't God Answer Everyone's Prayers?
It may be because they don't have a relationship with God. They may
know that God exists, and they might even worship God from time to time.
But those who never seem to have their prayers answered probably don't
have a relationship with him. Further, they have never received from God
complete forgiveness for their sin. What does
that have to do
with it you ask? Here is an explanation. "Surely the arm of the Lord is
not too short to save, nor his ear too dull to hear. But your iniquities
have separated you from your God. Your sins have hidden his face from
you, so that he will not hear."
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It's pretty natural to feel that separation from God. When people
begin to ask God for something, what usually takes place? They begin
with, "God, I really need your help with this problem..." And then
there's a pause, followed by a restart... "I realize that I'm not a
perfect person, that I actually have
no right to ask you for
this..." There's an awareness of personal sin and failure. And the
person knows that it's not just them; that God is aware of it too.
There's a feeling of, "Who am I kidding?" What they may
not
know is how they can receive God's forgiveness for all their sin. They
might not know that they can come into a relationship with God so that
God will hear them. This is the foundation for God answering your
prayer.
How to Pray: The Foundation
You must first begin a relationship with God. Here's why. Imagine
that a guy named Mike asks the president of Princeton University to
co-sign a car loan for him. If Mike doesn't personally know the
president of Princeton, that car loan is not going to happen. Yet, if
the daughter of this president asked her dad to co-sign a car loan for
her, it would be no problem. Relationship matters.
With God, when the person is actually a child of God, when the person
belongs to God, he knows them and hears their prayers. Jesus said, "I
am the good shepherd. I know my sheep and my sheep know me...my sheep
listen to my voice. I know them and they follow me. I give them eternal
life and they shall never perish; no one can snatch them out of my
hand."
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When it comes to God then, do you really know him and does he know
you? Do you have a relationship with him that warrants God answering
your prayers? Or is God pretty distant, pretty much just a concept in
your life?
Will God Definitely Answer Your Prayer?
For those who do know him and rely on him, Jesus seems to be wildly
generous in his offer: "If you remain in me and my words remain in you,
ask whatever you wish, and it will be given you."
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"remain" in him and have his words remain in them means they conduct
their lives aware of him, relying on him, listening to what he says.
Then they're able to ask him whatever they want. Here is another
qualifier: "This is the confidence we have in approaching God: that if
we ask anything according to his will, he hears us. And if we know that
he hears us -- whatever we ask -- we know that we have what we asked of
him."
6 God answers our prayers according to his will (and according to his wisdom, his love for us, his holiness, etc.).
Where we trip up is assuming we know God's will, because a certain
thing makes sense to us! We assume that there is only one right "answer"
to a specific prayer, assuming certainly THAT would be God's will. And
this is where it gets tough. We live within the limits of time and
limits of knowledge. We have only limited information about a situation
and the implications of future action on that situation. God's
understanding is unlimited. How an event plays out in the course of life
or history is only something he knows. And he may have purposes far
beyond what we could even imagine. So, God is not going to do something
simply because we determine that it must be his will.
What Does It Take? What is God Inclined to Do?
Pages and pages could be filled about God's intentions toward us. The
entire Bible is a description of the kind of relationship God wants us
to experience with him and the kind of life he wants to give us. Here
are just a few examples:
"...the Lord longs to be gracious to you. He rises to show you
compassion. For the Lord is a God of justice. Blessed are all who wait
for [trust] him!"
7 Did you catch that? Like someone rising
out of his chair to come to your help, "He rises to show you
compassion." "As for God, his way is perfect...He is a shield for all
who take refuge in him."
8 "The Lord delights in those who fear [reverence] him, who put their hope in his unfailing love."
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However, God's greatest display of his love and commitment to you is
this: Jesus said, "Greater love has no one than this, that he lay down
his life for his friends,"
10 which is what Jesus did for us.
And so, "If God is for us, who can ever be against us? Since God did not
spare even his own Son but gave him up for us all, won't God, who gave
us Christ, also give us everything else?"
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What about "Unanswered" Prayer?
Certainly people get sick, even die; financial problems are real, and
all sorts of very difficult situations can come up. What then?
God tells us to give our concerns to him. Even as the situation
remains dismal, "Cast all your anxiety on him, because he cares for
you."
12 The circumstances may look out of control, but they
aren't. When the whole world seems to be falling apart, God can keep us
together. This is when a person can be very grateful that they know God.
"The Lord is near. Be anxious for nothing, but in everything by prayer
and supplication with thanksgiving let your requests be made known to
God. And the peace of God, which surpasses all comprehension, will guard
your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus."
13 God may
provide solutions, resolutions to the problem WAY beyond what you
imagined possible. Probably any Christian could list examples like this
in their own lives. But if the circumstances do not improve, God can
still give us his peace in the midst of it. Jesus said, "Peace I leave
with you; my peace I give to you; not as the world gives do I give to
you. Do not let your heart be troubled, nor let it be fearful."
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It is at this point (when circumstances are still tough) that God
asks us to continue to trust him -- to "walk by faith, not by sight" the
Bible says. But it's not blind faith. It is based on the very character
of God. A car traveling on the Golden Gate Bridge is fully supported by
the integrity of the bridge. It doesn't matter what the driver may be
feeling, or thinking about, or discussing with someone in the passenger
seat. What gets the car safely to the other side is the integrity of the
bridge, which the driver was willing to trust.
In the same way, God asks us to trust his integrity, his
character...his compassion, love, wisdom, righteousness on our behalf.
He says, "I have loved you with an everlasting love, therefore I have
continued my faithfulness to you."
15 "Trust in him at all times, O people. Pour out your heart before him. God is a refuge for us."
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In Summary...How to Pray
God has offered to answer the prayers of his children (those who have
received him into their lives and seek to follow him). He asks us to
take any concerns to him in prayer and he will act upon it according to
his will. As we deal with difficulties we are to cast our cares on him
and receive from him a peace that defies the circumstances. The basis
for our hope and faith is the character of God himself. The better we
know him, the more apt we are to trust him.